Schedule Your Concerns: Setting a "Worry Time"
You're learning powerful techniques to manage repetitive negative thinking. Sometimes, trying to suppress worries entirely can backfire, making them feel even more insistent. The "Worry Time" technique offers a different approach: instead of constant avoidance, you intentionally designate a specific time each day to acknowledge and address your worries. This can help contain rumination and prevent it from dominating your entire day.
How to Implement "Worry Time":
1. Choose a Specific Time:
Select a consistent time each day for your "worry time."
Aim for a period that:
Is Predictable:
This helps your mind learn when it's "allowed" to worry.
Is Not Too Close to Bedtime:
You don't want to fuel anxiety right before sleep.
Is a Manageable Length:
Start with 10-15 minutes. You can adjust this as needed.
Fits Your Schedule:
Choose a time when you can be relatively undisturbed.
2. Create a "Worry Space":
Decide where you will engage in your worry time. This could be a specific chair, a particular room, or even a mental "space" you create for this purpose. Having a designated space can further help contain the activity.
3. During Your Worry Time:
When your scheduled time arrives:
Allow Yourself to Worry:
Let the thoughts and concerns that have been surfacing throughout the day come to mind.
Jot Them Down (Optional but Helpful):
Writing down your worries can help you process them more concretely and prevent them from swirling endlessly.
Briefly Consider Each Worry:
You might spend a minute or two on each concern.
Ask yourself:
Is there anything I can realistically do about this right now?
What are the facts of the situation?
Am I catastrophizing?
Avoid Getting Lost in the Loop: Try to keep the worry time focused and contained within the allotted period.
4. When Worries Arise Outside of Worry Time:
This is the key to the technique:
Acknowledge the Worry:
Notice the negative thought or concern.
Remind Yourself:
Gently say to yourself (or even out loud), "This is a worry, and I will give it my attention during my scheduled worry time at [time]."
Redirect Your Attention:
Shift your focus back to the present moment and the activity you were engaged in.
Why "Worry Time" Can Be Effective:
Creates Structure: It provides a predictable container for worries.
Reduces Avoidance:
It acknowledges that worries are valid but don't need to dominate your entire day.
Promotes Control:
It gives you a sense of agency over when and how you engage with your worries.
Can Lead to Diminished Intensity:
By postponing worries, you might find that some lose their urgency or even fade away by your designated worry time.
Separates Worry from Other Activities:
It helps you enjoy other parts of your day without the constant intrusion of negative thoughts.
Important Considerations:
Consistency is Key:
Try to stick to your scheduled worry time as consistently as possible.
Don't Judge Yourself:
If you find yourself worrying outside of your designated time, simply gently redirect yourself without self-criticism.
It's Not About Eliminating Worry:
The goal isn't to never worry, but to manage and contain it.
Combine with Other Techniques: "Worry Time" can be a valuable tool to use alongside other strategies for challenging and reframing negative thoughts.